Dear Carol: My beloved mother is 93 and has been right paralyzed for years from a stroke. She’s in a very good nursing home, the family is actively by her side as much as possible, and we try our best. She says she is tired and just wants to die. I feel completely helpless, when she says that, and just say, “Please, Mom, don’t.” How do we handle this? Virginia
Dear Virginia: When my grandmother, who was my mother’s mother, was in her late 80s and very ill, she told Mom that she was tired of fighting. She was in pain from advanced cancer. She said she was ready to go.