Dear Carol: My parents are in their late 70s and had been doing really well, or so it seemed. Then, about three months ago, my dad had a heart attack from which he’s now recovered. However, during the time he was ill my siblings and I realized that our mother has been mentally declining. It seems Dad had been covering for her for a long time. She has now been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer’s disease. We are feeling overwhelmed with decisions and don’t know where to turn for help. Elaine
Dear Elaine: When caregiving comes at people suddenly it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Sometimes people don’t even know where to start looking for help, and when they do see options the whole range of choices can confuse and overtake them.