Dear Carol: I love my mother and have tried to be a good caregiver to her during her battle with cancer, which is in remission, and now with her lung and joint problems. She’s just 78-years-old and seems to be letting life go on without any enjoyment. I do my best to make her life as smooth as possible and hope to provide her with some happiness. The problem is that she is chronically unhappy with her life no matter what I do. How do I judge if I’m doing enough for her when she’s so unhappy? - Joyce
Dear Joyce: Your mother has been through significant pain, both physical and emotional, and from what you say, she’s still suffering. Also, from what I’ve read, most people who have survived cancer understandably feel vulnerable to a recurrence of the disease, which can contribute to a negative outlook on life in general.