...In my family, there were multiple elders—my father, uncle, mother and mother-in-law-- in need of varying levels of care at the same time I had to care for young children. Eventually, they all went to the same facility near my home and I became a daily visitor and part of the care team.
Be realistic. Care centers are generally too understaffed to give one-on-one care, unless you are paying for a private duty nurse. Don't expect your loved one's call light to be answered immediately every time.