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Gratitude can replace resentment with time, patience, and homework

LoneEagleDear Carol: My mother suffered a series of small strokes that contributed to increasing disability. Since I’m divorced with grown kids, I retired early and had mom move in with me. This worked for nearly five years before a massive stroke made it evident that I needed to move her to a nursing home. Mom lived there for less than six months before she died. Sometimes, I’m overwhelmed by guilt over moving her, even though the care that she received was excellent. I tell myself that if I would have stuck with it six more months Mom could have been with me the whole time. Then I swing to resentment. I’m financially strapped from retiring early and constantly worry about money. It seems few of my feelings are positive or even sensible. I know time should help, but I'm tired of spinning my wheels and want to take some kind of action to get back on track. What can I do? CL

Read the full column on Inforum about getting over guilt through finding gratitude:

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Yes, gratitude can make life so much easier for all. Even gratitude in our pain. When we have gratitude in our hearts, we understand more of life. Thanks for your comment.
Carol

Thanks for sharing this useful article.

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