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Keep Holiday Expectations Realistic and Make Adjustments Where You Can

Family5Dear Carol: Last year Christmas was a mess and I’m determined to make this year better. Dad had a stroke two years ago and uses a wheelchair and mom has rheumatoid arthritis and uses a walker, so they both need a place with easy access. That would be my house. Both of my brothers, their wives, and their children join us. Along with our kids, the total of children is five. They are good kids but noisy which bothers my dad. Also, my brothers have opposing political views so I’m praying they don’t get into politics. To make things even more complicated, Mom is super judgmental and finds something to complain about in everything said by anyone even though they didn’t say anything that should offend her. I love my family and this isn’t about the work of hosting a holiday dinner. My siblings bring side dishes so I don’t have to do everything. It’s the personalities all together for eight hours and two meals that I dread. How do I handle this potential mess better than before? MW

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Suggested Caregiver Responses to "I Want to Go Home"

OldercoupleOne of the most heartbreaking things caregivers of people with Alzheimer’s hear is “I want to go home.” The request is often repeated many times a day, even though the person is, to our way of thinking, home. Anyone who has tried saying, “But you are home!” will know that logic doesn’t work. What can a caregiver do?

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Senior Anemia Is a Serious Problem: What to Look For and How to Treat It

AnemiaSeniorsDecades ago when my grandmother was alive and living with my family, a public health nurse would come to the house once a month and give her a vitamin B12 shot. While I remember this well, it didn’t register with me at that young age how vital this injection was for Grandma. Once I started writing about health issues, I began to understand the seriousness of her condition. It seems that Grandma had pernicious anemia, which is not uncommon in elderly people. A number of things can cause anemia in seniors, such as chronic disease, iron deficiency, B12 deficiency (like my grandmother), bleeding, and more. It is important to be aware of the signs and symptoms of anemia to make sure it can be medically treated as quickly as possible.

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Does Your Elder Hide Dementia Symptoms from the Doctor?

Doctor6Convincing some elders to see their doctors for any reason can be difficult. Convincing them to give honest answers to the doctor’s questions can be even more challenging. This is especially true when the elder gets into uncomfortable territory. Areas where they feel they will be judged. The issues that are probably most often covered up are alcohol or drug abuse, but not far behind would be cognitive problems.

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How Can You Help? Tips for Visiting a Dementia Caregiver

Friends2People get worried about visiting caregivers. They are concerned about intruding or what to say or do in certain situations. But it is great when someone makes the effort and most caregivers find the contact and support of others invaluable. Here are seven tips to allay your concerns about visiting caregivers to people with Alzheimer’s or another type of dementia.

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Driving and Memory Loss: Tips to Help Elders Give Up Driving

Driving2For many of us, a car is a sign of independence. But this emotional connection to our automobiles is part of what makes convincing a person that he or she is no longer capable of driving such a volatile battle. The longer adult children or others wait to discuss driving issues with a loved one, the harder it can be. Occasionally, people in the earlier stages of cognitive or physical decline will recognize the signs of that decline when they have a close call while driving and scare themselves into giving up their right to drive. More frequently, if the person has developed Alzheimer’s or another type of dementia, and the disease has advanced to a point where judgment is affected, a prolonged battle often erupts.

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You Are Not Alone: Caregivers Share Their Experiences and Insights

CaregiverGroupLong-term caregiving can be isolating and lonely which is why peer support is so vital to a caregiver’s mental, emotional and physical health. More than a decade ago I searched for other caregivers with whom I could share my journey and discovered that connecting was difficult. This experience led me to write Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share their Personal Stories. Thankfully, during this past decade, because of technology along with other awareness efforts, caregiver support has exploded with resources and professional help. Still, caregivers long to connect personally with each other and share, on an intimate level, what they’ve learned. The stories below are examples of that sharing spirit. Caregiving will change your life both positively and negatively, but these caregivers make it clear that you don’t have to go through it alone.

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Caffeine May Prevent Alzheimer’s by Halting Tau Protein Growth

CoffeeAloneIn modern U.S. culture, coffee has literally been raised to an art form, with baristas topping complicated coffee-based drinks with drawings that will disappear with the first sip of the brew. Few coffee drinkers, whether they buy their coffee at these high-end shops or perk it at home in a humble pot, are drinking coffee for its health benefits. For the most part, they drink it because they like the taste, because it’s a comforting habit or for its invigorating kick.

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AARP and National Association of Area Agencies on Aging Campaign to Fight Elder Loneliness

LonelyWomanNews via PBS:  "The first-of-its-kind campaign, organized by the AARP Foundation and the National Association of Area Agencies on Aging, aims to help seniors assess their social connectedness and suggest practical ways they can forge bonds with other people...Addressing stigma will be a priority. ..'Who wants to admit that, ‘I’m isolated and I’m lonely?' said Dallas Jamison, a spokeswoman for the National Association of Area Agencies on Aging.'It’s a source of shame and embarrassment.'”

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Thanksgiving: Discovering Gratitude in Caregiving

CaringCaring for our aging loved ones can be exhausting, frustrating, demanding and time consuming. Since November marks National Alzheimer's Awareness Month  we’re honoring Alzheimer’s caregivers, but November is also National Caregiver’s Month. Thanksgiving, as another November holiday, reminds me to think of ways that caregiving, tough as it can be, also offers caregivers a time to note the special blessings we’ve received when we are open to recognizing the gifts. After all, caring for one another is, in my view, one of the answers to “why are we here.”

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