I'm am continually amazed, these days, at the enormous visibility of elder care. I shouldn't be. The numbers are there. But during the two decades I struggled through child/eldercare issues, I was nearly invisible. "Sandwich Generation" was a term coined so late in the game that I didn't realize, until years after the fact, that it applied to me. Then I realized that, for twenty years, I had been the "filling" in the sandwich.
I was also told by publishers that "only a select few people would be interested in my topic." I just shook my head and moved on. I'm so happy that elder care is now in the spotlight and more and more options are appearing. Not enough, mind you. We need a whole shift in viewpoint from our politicians and our employers, before we will get real help. However letting the sun shine on any topic stimulates the thought process. More caregiving options are now available. Formal support groups are offered (but what caregiver has time to go? Thus, the comfort of the internet at 3:00 a.m.).
Journal and Courier On-line has published "Reversing roles: More adult children caring for aging parents," written by Dorothy Schneider. Schnieder did an admirable job on the article, so I thought I'd pass it on to you.
"Caring for an aging parent or spouse is akin to walking a tightrope.
The caregiver has to weigh the family member's safety against their desire for independence. They also have to balance their own responsibilities with their family member's needs."