Dear Readers: There are many common threads among caregivers of aging parents, but one of the most common is that of sibling issues. These days, our families are often spread out across the country. Siblings meet up at holidays, but often that is the extent of their relationships.
While many people got along well with their siblings as children, just as many have unresolved issues. Still, most families roll along fairly well, often with limited contact, until they are faced with a crisis. And that crisis is often elder care. Typically, the adult child who lives closest to the parents becomes the primary caregiver, while the other siblings have some input from a distance. This long-distance caregiving has two sides.