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In-Home Care Can Help Stem Elder Abuse

While elder abuse in nursing homes is a definite concern in some areas, there is a type of abuse that often goes undetected. That is abuse in the home. This type of abuse can mean spirited and intentional, and should be reported to authorities immediately. But a subtler type of abuse Read more →

10 Caregiver Confessions: Secrets We Aren’t Proud Of

Wouldn’t it be nice to be perfect? Wouldn’t it be nice to be a caregiver who had only loving thoughts every moment of the caregiving day? Maybe there are caregivers like that. If you are one of them, I truly congratulate you. Most of us who have been through years of caregiving will not fall into that category. Read more →

Starting a family conversation about elder care and senior living

Many adult children worry about their aging parents and would like to create a living plan based on their parents’ wishes, should various problems occur. Bringing up the topic, however, can be a challenge. Read more →

Cognitive Test “Sweet 16” Up and Coming Tool for Doctors

If I had a frequently asked question list, one of the top ten questions from adult children would be “how do I get my dad/mom to a doctor for a dementia evaluation?” It’s natural and human to want to avoid an unpleasant truth. For most of us, the aging process brings some very unpleasant truths, as our bodies signal that certain functions are showing signs of wear. Read more →

Taking a Vacation from Caregiving - Part 2: Dealing with Separation Anxiety

Caregiving is, by nature, emotional. When loved ones need our care, it's generally because their health is beginning to fail. As this happens, giving care can become a full-time occupation, mentally if not physically. If we decide that we need a break from the pressures of 24/7 caregiving, we often suffer emotional separation anxiety, headed by guilt. How do we cope with our emotions well enough to actually enjoy the vacation we've chosen to take? Read more →

It’s National Caregiver’s Month: Don’t Forget Male Caregivers

Dear Readers: This is a busy month for celebrating caregivers. It’s National Alzheimer’s Awareness Month, National Hospice/Palliative Care Month and National Caregiver’s Month. Many readers could be a part of all three of these awareness campaigns, if you had time. It’s likely that many of you saw the ABC News special titled the “Shriver Report 2010,” which recently aired over an entire week. If you missed this report, go to the ABC News Web site and type in “Shriver Report.” The full report is meant to highlight Read more →

Could Anti-Inflammatory Drugs Lower Post Surgical Cognitive Decline in Elders?

My dad’s post surgical dementia was severe. Sadly, I know our family wasn’t the only family to go through the agony of watching an elder go into surgery with their full cognitive ability only to come out of surgery with dementia. Since this subject is dear to my heart, Read more →

Celebrate Caregivers of All Types this November

It’s human to categorize things. Caregiving is no different. Many of us who have been family caregivers – and there are legions of us – tend to think of a daughter who lives near her parents, as the primary caregiver. This is frequently true. However, there are millions of spousal caregivers, male and female, loyally caring for their beloved life partner, either in the home or in a care facility. Read more →

Coping with Outsiders Who Criticize Your Choices

What do you do if your aging parents' friends or, if you are a spouse--your own friends--think you are too hasty in getting outside help for your loved ones? One of the saddest letters I've gotten from readers was from a woman who had cared for her Parkinson's stricken husband for over a decade. Read more →