Dear Carol: My 88-year-old mother still lives independently, but has recently developed some paranoia. It’s mostly centered on me, as I’m the family member who is with her the most. She misplaces objects and then accuses me of stealing what she can’t find. Even when we find the object, she accuses me of moving it and lying. My siblings live farther away, so it’s hard for them to visit often, yet I don’t want to upset Mom with my presence. How can I support her and my siblings? Geraldine
Dear Geraldine: Your concern for your mom’s feeling is important. It's a horrible experience to your parent think you are stealing from them, but not as unusual as you'd think.
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