Dear Carol: I sometimes feel like the only person who struggles with less than warm feelings toward a parent, especially during holidays. My mother has a history of mental illness and now has dementia. I know it’s not her fault that she’s been ill so much, but my childhood was tough. I can't remember having a mother - only being in the mother role with her. I recently looked at Mother’s Day cards and thought how inappropriate most of them are to our situation. I just feel tired and sad when I think of her.
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