Dear Carol: My mother has end stage lung cancer and Alzheimer’s. She’s in a hospice program at home. She can be quite aggressive at times, and usually my father is the target. Over the years, he has taken on the personality of a battered husband. I'm very concerned because he is post triple by-pass, diabetic and has kidney problems. Recently, I have also become an abuse target.

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