Vision and hearing checkups tough for people with dementia
When your parent repeats "I want to go home"

What can caregiver do when no one comes to visit or call an elder?

Dear Carol: My mom, 93 years old, sent cash Christmas gifts to all her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. However, she got few thank you notes and asks why she never hears back from these people.  She also doesn’t have many friends left so there’s no one to fill the void. She has early to mid-stage dementia and gets depressed easily when she does not get visits, phone calls or notes. My siblings do call and some come to visit once or twice a month, but I wish they would do more.

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Through my church, I found someone to visit Mom 5 or 6 days a week. I do pay her to visit, but Mom enjoys feeling like a real person and seeing someone besides just me. It brings Mom up to a higher level when she "entertains." After the visit she has no memory of it, but I find that it has helped her cognitively.

You're right, of course. Sometimes that helps. Some people get defensive, but others just don't think of how valuable this attention is. Pretty sad, but human.
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Talking to them individually might help. Often they just don't realize how important visits are. I would contact those who did not write thank you notes to please do so. These things are of the utmost importance to AD patients.

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