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Dear Carol: My 92-year-old mother is being eaten up by dementia and I am struggling with guilt because I dread visiting her. She lives in an assisted living center which she likes, but there’s no memory unit and not a lot of hands-on help. I try to give her the personal care she needs, but she hates having me assist her. She often insults me, which is unlike how she used to be. I know she acts this way because of her dementia, but I can’t help but dread my time with her. I never thought I’d feel this way about my beloved mother. At times her old self seems to shine through, though not for long. I know I should cherish this time with her, but I don’t. Then guilt eats me up. What’s wrong with me? – Renee

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