It’s not news that most of us are busy, even stressed, during the holiday season. However, when we are caregivers our stress level can soar. Being flexible and forgiving may be the key to getting through the season with some sanity intact. Flexibility is important because our loved one, especially if he or she has dementia, will likely be unpredictable. What we planned with great care could suddenly be the wrong approach when the special day arrives and we’ll need to adjust to reality.
The ability to forgive is important because we may find ourselves the brunt of criticism from well meaning people, related or not, who don’t agree with how much or how little we include the person with dementia. It’s also important to forgive ourselves if we make a decision that backfires. We are human.