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Why Elders Don't Come Clean with the Doctor

One reason our elders put on such a show for the doctor is fear. They don't want to hear a bad diagnosis for many reasons, one being the possible loss of independence. So, they put on their company manners. They tell the doctor whatever seems best in order to get out of there "free." Read more →

Siblings Disagree About Mom Seeking Dementia Evaluation

Dear Carol: My sister Jean has wanted our mom to see a doctor about memory issues for months but Mom says she’s fine. Jean lives out of town, so she set aside a day to come into town and take Mom to lunch and get Mom’s hair cut. Then, Jean sprung a doctor appointment on Mom and, not surprisingly, Mom refused to go. She and Jean had a fight. Read more →

Redefining Life After the Death of a Care Receiver

For some of us, the death of a loved one who has suffered for years brings some relief along with our natural grief. Not everyone can admit to the relief aspect, because they are afraid that they will appear unfeeling to others, or even to themselves. Read more →

Do You Regret Placing Your Parent In a Nursing Home?

...Of course, we don't always make the right call regarding every circumstance. But we do our best. I'd hazard a guess that the most painful decision for most of us to make is whether or not it's in our loved one's best interests to place him or her in a nursing home. If it is also in our best interest, then the guilt looms even larger. Read more →

Leukemia Drug May Stop Dementia Related Plaque Buildup

An existing drug already used to treat leukemia has shown promise as a treatment for neurological diseases such as Lewy body dementia, Alzheimer’s disease and Parkinson’s disease. Researchers from Georgetown University successfully used small doses of the drug nilotinibin in experiments using mice. The drug, which is used to treat chronic myelogenous leukemia (CML), appears to eliminate abnormal protein build-up in the brain. Read more →

Is It Wise To Quit a Job to Be a Caregiver?

You also could save the money that would be spent for in-home care or adult day care, plus you likely put off, if not eliminate, the need for nursing home care. Therefore, quitting a job and staying home to care for your aging parents could save them significant money. Read more →

Caring for Multiple Elders Especially Challenging

many people are trying to care for two or more elders in varying locations, with each elder needing significant care. It's a situation that I know well. During my busiest eldercare years, I was the primary caregiver for five elders in three different living situations. I continually struggled to compassionately and efficiently divide my time in a way the best covered their needs. Read more →

Choosing a Care Facility? Listen To Your Gut

People smiling at one another, sharing a laugh or helping out even if something isn’t “their job” can be a tip off as to the way the staff works together. This is not to say everyone will always be jolly. Nursing home staff work very hard and must cope with frustrating and heartbreaking situations on a daily basis. Still, you’ll get a general feel if there is some sort of fellowship among those hard at work. Read more →

Small Things Important To Aging Mom

Because of frequent falls and other health problems, Mom spent many years in a nursing home. Dad also made his home there after surgery catapulted him into instant dementia. At least they were together. The facility was just a couple of blocks from where I lived, so I was able to see both parents nearly every day. My sister, whose home was about 50 miles away, would come to town nearly every weekend to see our parents, and a few long-time friends visited frequently. Read more →