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When Grandchildren Become Caregivers

Many of these young people were raised by their grandparents. In other instances, the grandchild becomes the primary caregiver because he or she lives closer to the elder than other family members. Sometimes, it's simply because a particular grandchild feels close to the grandparent and has the "caregiver personality." Read more →


Overcoming Denial to Seek Potential Dementia Diagnosis

One reason for this intense fear of Alzheimer's is obvious. While many types of cancer can be cured, most types of dementia cannot. However, another reason is that the idea of being betrayed by our brains to the point that we are essentially lost in the disease is abhorrent to most of us. Read more →


How Does Moving People With Alzheimer’s Affect Them?

Accepting your mother’s disease is essential for you, your brother, his wife and any other family members. That doesn’t mean you like the disease. It simply means acknowledging that you can’t change it. The next step is for all of you to get educated in coping with the disease and helping your mom. Read more →


Does Caring for More Than One Aging Loved One Compound Stress?

Don't let yourself be overwhelmed by the care needs of multiple elders before you even look for other options. Start setting boundaries early. I'm not encouraging neglect by any means. I'm just suggesting that you learn to trust that other people can help you care for your loved ones. Read more →


Can Hospitalization Lead to Cognitive Decline?

Seeing my intelligent, gentle, funny dad turn into another man in a matter of hours was life changing. Almost worse, however, was the blank look of the doctors who insisted that dad was "no different" than before the surgery, even though they prescribed a powerful psychoactive drug post surgery, with no logical explanation for why he now "needed" the drug. Read more →


20/20: Hindsight in Caregiving

We can decide not to be bothered by criticism from the outside. The problem is, we often aren't aware that we are judging ourselves even more harshly than outsiders may judge us. This is particularly true in retrospect. We look back and beat ourselves up for slips, real or imagined, because we were novices and didn't know what we know now. Read more →


Rebuilding Life After Cargiving Ends

For some of us, the death of a loved one who has suffered for years brings some relief along with our natural grief. Not everyone can admit to the relief aspect, because they are afraid that they will appear unfeeling to others, or even to themselves. Read more →


When Elders Fight Outside Caregivers

Add to this the paranoia that is common with many dementias, particularly Alzheimer's disease, and you have one explosive situation. Recently, on the Agingcare forum, a nurse asked what she should do about a client with Alzheimer's who thought she, the nurse, was trying to murder her. People were surprised and sympathetic, but unfortunately, this fear is not all that unusual. Read more →