Dear Carol: I’m wondering if other male caregivers feel like they’ve lost their sense identity. My wife has multiple sclerosis which has worsened during the time I’ve been retired. I love her very much and am happy to provide care for her. I take part in a spousal support group, but I still feel like all I do is take care of her needs. My wife appreciates me, yet I was once a well-respected businessman and I miss that sense of belonging. Now I’m not sure of my purpose other than being a caregiver. Maybe I’m whining over nothing, but I feel that I’m missing something important to my wellbeing. H.K.

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