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AgingManCreditmohammed-elgassier-557989-unsplashDear Carol: My aunt, who has never married, always been a complainer. She has a decent retirement income but has always lived in a hovel because she never wanted to spend her money. Now she has chronic health problems. When my husband and I last visited her home we knew that morally we couldn’t let this go on because she was physically filthy and unable to care for herself, and she couldn’t climb her steps to go out. We finally convinced her to move to a wonderful care facility where she’s been settled for over six months.  She has great food, a saintly aide that costs extra but is worth every penny, activities to attend, and lovely surroundings. Still, all she does is complain. It’s getting so that I can hardly stand to visit her, though visiting has been a priority so that we could keep an eye on things. She’s wearing me down. Why are some people like this? – RE

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