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Dear Carol: Last year was a tough one for my family. Dad had never recovered from a massive stroke that he suffered two years ago and Mom, who’d been his caregiver, discovered shortly after his death that she had advanced breast cancer. They were both 79. Mom was peaceful with the fact that the cancer was too advanced for her to fight and said that she was ready to join dad. We realize that since she was beyond treatment when she was diagnosed she was showing a healthy attitude, but my sister and I are still feeling traumatized by the year. Our parents loved Christmas and spent weeks decorating and preparing, which is making this year extra hard. My sister said that the only reason that she’s going to celebrate at all is for her husband and kids. I’m single and have no children. I’m close to my family and have great friends but I’d just like to skip this holiday. Should I make an effort for myself? I’m torn. – HP

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Thank you for your kind answer to HP, Angeline.

It’s heartbreaking to read about your parents HP. Holidays always bring up memories of lost loved ones. Please consider grief counseling or support groups if things get too overwhelming. Our parents never truly leave us, they are within us. Hope you celebrated in their memory and festive spirit; they would have certainly wanted you to.

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