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Dear Carol: My widowed dad is 83 and doing well enough, but he’s lonely. He lives in the same house that he and Mom owned for decades. Dad has mild cognitive impairment but he’s aware of that and shows no signs of dementia. Dad’s decided that he likes the idea of moving to the same assisted living facility where some friends live. I think that’s a great idea but my brother, who has Power of Attorney for Dad and lives 900 miles away, insists that because Dad has memory problems, he doesn’t have the judgment to make his own decisions. My brother claims that that aging at home is the way to go. Since my mom was the dominant personality, and my brother is like her, Dad does what my brother says. I think that my brother is afraid to lose our childhood home, but Dad’s the one who counts. How do we resolve this? – CV

Read the full column on Inforum to learn more about mild cognitive impairment and the ability to make decisions:

Carol Bradley Bursack is the Candid Caregiver

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