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Dear Carol: My husband has vascular dementia due to strokes and uses a wheelchair.  I’ve been his sole caregiver for over a decade but a year ago it was obvious that my body was breaking down from the physical work and emotional exhaustion of 24-hour care. It was his idea that he should move to a local nursing home, so we moved him and he’s done well. We like the staff and have become close to some of them. Recently, I was invited to go on a 10-day trip with some women friends from church. Even though I’d love to go the thought of leaving him terrifies me. I’ve told my husband about the trip and when he can remember he tells me that I should go because he’s fine. The trouble is, he forgets what I told him so it’s possible that he won’t remember and will wonder why I’m not there with him. I know that I’ll worry all the while I’m gone. How do I leave without guilt ruining the trip? – GH

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