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Dear Carol: I grew up with a mentally ill, completely self-absorbed mother and absent father. With the help of therapists over the years, I’ve survived and even done well, but childhood pain never leaves us. Now, my mother, who has been diagnosed as narcissistic, is reaching the age where her physical health and her ability to make decisions are both declining. She’s had a number of mini-strokes and extremely high blood pressure. I’ve done all of the recommended things I can do to convince her to get Powers of Attorney assigned, if not to me, her only child then to an attorney, but she won’t do it. She tells me that this would just give me an opportunity to “off” her, which is, of course, ridiculous. Still, she won’t budge and considering her age, 79, and her health it’s scary. I’ve worked with doctors and attorneys, and short of gaining guardianship which isn’t likely at this time, there seems to be little I can do. My question is how do I live with this without going down myself? My husband is supportive, but I need more. – TY

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