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Dear Carol: I was widowed young and had no children so when my mother had her first stroke in her 80s I moved her in with me. I recently remarried and my new husband’s fine with mom living with us since we have a large home, but problems are coming up and I feel torn. My husband wants us to travel some, and I want this, too. He’s good to Mom, but soon his resentment about us being tied down is bound to show in how he relates to her. Mom doesn’t want to go to a care facility because she says that they cost too much and she wants to leave her money to my brothers and me. I tell her that doesn’t matter but she resists saying that the money is her legacy. I feel like I’m choosing between two people I love. Help! – PI

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