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Dear Carol: My dad left when I was in middle school and then my mother married a man who abused me, but she stuck by him anyway. Now she’s alone. I’ve had years of counseling and I feel that I’ve forgiven her, mostly because I needed to do that for myself, but I’m not certain what role I can play in her future. She’s doing fine now, but I expect that she will soon be seeing an increase in some ongoing health problems so she will eventually need help. What is my moral obligation? My mother gave me shelter and food, but she also enabled a situation that made me a child victim. Could you help me here?  What do I owe my mother? – LS

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