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"Where's my college ring?" This had become Dad's mantra during some months of his early demented years. I knew he hadn't gotten a ring when he graduated from college. His college career was interrupted by World War II, then work and a family. He went back to school during his work career. I, at age fourteen, attended his college graduation. I suppose, with a family to support, he didn't think a college ring was important. He didn't order one. He never owned one. But no way would he believe that now, as a man in his late seventies with heavy-duty dementia.

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You got it right, Ron! It's a shock, at first, but once we realize that this is their reality, it becomes pretty natural.
Thanks for letting us know what worked for you.

Mom's challenges to reality went unchecked in our family. At first, not knowing fully well what was happening with mom, we took a step back. Then, realizing debate or argument were futile and counter-productive, we took a giant step into her world -- and that's where we stayed. Wouldn't have done it any other way!

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