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Dear Carol: My 66-year-old mother lives alone in a condominium. She used to be quite pleasant but now all she does is complain. Since she says that she’s lonely, I’ve suggested that she move to a local assisted living facility so she can make friends and have company when she wants it, but she refuses. When we visit, all she does is complain and pick apart people who care about her. I’m too fat, my husband’s too quiet, her grandchildren have hair the wrong cut or color, the wrong jobs, the wrong friends, the wrong everything. Her sister lives 75 miles away but she got tired of being a target, so she doesn’t visit. Last week, Mom even accused me of stealing her earrings! How do we manage this? – TH

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Thank you, Tina, for the comment. I, too, feel that everything else needs to be looked at before dementia of any type is diagnosed. This could be early on-set AD or another dementia, but certainly some socialization (if she's willing) as well as medications (I mentioned this is the column).
Take care!

I wouldn't jump onto a diagnosis of early Alz. The only thing representative of that sounds like the "stealing the earrings" part. Many older people live alone and then begin to think about everything that's "wrong" in their world. I think she needs to get out and socialize a bit more and perhaps have a family member(s) and friends talk to her about her mindset and how changing it would give her a better quality of life.

Thanks for the tip Jeanne!

She needs a recreational therapist CTRS to help her and her family deal with these changes. Sounds like early onset Alz. to me

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