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Dear Carol: My parents enjoyed a true love affair during their marriage. I’m the youngest in the family and still live in the same community. Because Dad has dementia and recently had a stroke, he lives in a nursing home. They are doing a good job caring for him, but Mom still insists on spending hours with him every day. I think that this is hard on her in some ways, but it’s what she wants so the family supports it. What has me upset is that Valentine’s Day is coming up and traditionally Mom and Dad made a big deal about it. Since Dad’s dementia though, it’s been agonizing to watch Mom try to “celebrate” with Dad when he doesn’t even know what day it is. She gets through this sad process, but it’s painful to watch. How do others handle this? Should I suggest that she just ignore the holiday this year? – SD

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