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Mother Won't Socialize with "Old" People but Complains of Loneliness

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Dear Carol: My 79-year-old mother lives alone in her condo and is physically excellent for her age, but she’s miserable. She’s always been a complainer and difficult to get along with. Even though she sees someone from the family every other day, she says that she’s lonely and no one cares. I call her daily and my sister calls several times a week. Since she still drives, there’s no reason that she can’t go to the senior center for meals, to church services and group activities, or reach out to people from her past who she’s cut off because they are “getting old.” I’d like to see her move to a local assisted living facility but she says that she won’t because, again, she doesn’t want to be around all those “old people.” She also says that the facilities are too expensive, but she can afford it. I’m sick of listening to her complain, and she won’t help herself. How do I change this? – HP

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