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Dear Carol: My parents are in their 70s and for years I’ve been trying to get them to tell me their preferred plans as they age and put it in writing.  They say that they will think about it. Now, we are separated because of the coronavirus being so contagious. They are capable of handling things on their own, or at least as capable as anyone is right now. My fear is that this virus can hospitalize older adults and even kill them, but my parents are still ignoring my pleas to let me be their backup plan. Thankfully, they are being cooperative about isolating. Even so, I’m an only child so I’m terrified that they'll both get sick. Will the people in the hospital listen to me even without documents? I wanted more planning before, but now I just want them to talk to me about this risk. – KT

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