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Dear Carol: There’s probably no right answer to what I’m asking but I felt the need to write just for comfort. My mother died when I was in my teens, so Dad has been the only parent that I’ve had for more than 20 years. I have no siblings. Dad’s now in his 70s and has been diagnosed with prostate cancer. He’s beaten both melanoma and lung cancer in the past, but he tells me that this cancer should be slow-growing and that he’ll probably die before it’s a problem so he doesn’t want to treat it. I want him to go full-on with every treatment possible. I watched both of my parents fight cancer, so I know that it’s horrible to go through treatment, but I don’t want to lose him! How do I accept the fact that he’s taking this route? — LM.

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