Dear Carol: Nine months ago, my 63-year-old husband was happy and active and we were both looking forward to his retirement. Then he had a massive stroke, and our lives were permanently changed. I’m very grateful to have him at all, so I don’t want to be misunderstood. It’s just that I’m struggling. We’ve had to hire help for his care because therapy hasn’t been that effective and this expense is draining our savings. Our children want to help, but they don’t live that close to us so their ongoing help is impractical. Our faith tells us to be grateful for life, which, of course, I am. I’m also grateful and somewhat humiliated to find that my husband is doing better emotionally than I am, but the holidays are approaching and I’m still angry. We aren’t and won’t be homeless, we have plenty to eat and we don’t owe money, so I feel guilty that I can’t find more gratitude. How do I get beyond this anger and bitterness and find gratitude? — NM.
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