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Dear Washer: I’m so sorry! You aren’t alone in this but I’m sure it often seems that you are, particularly when changing your dad’s sheets in the middle of the night. People who live with dementia will nearly always develop incontinence if they live into the last stages. That is because... Read more →


...Other common types of incontinence among adults include urge incontinence when you have a strong impulse to use the toilet but cannot get there in time; overflow incontinence, which involves urine leakage resulting from weak bladder muscle Read more →


t’s like this. I understand that my siblings would have to travel to help Mom and Dad so being here every day isn’t feasible, but couldn’t they change off for a monthly visit? If they can’t even do that, could they at least not second-guess me or criticize my decisions? Read more →


Within those conversations, you’ll likely see opportunities to discuss their ideal wishes. Even if they are already at a stage where they probably should make adjustments in how they are living, approach it by asking how they see their future. Read more →


Dear Mom’s Keeper: You sound like a caring daughter with understandable concerns. If it’s any comfort, parents resisting help is a common problem faced by adult children. For some, the concern is about cognitive problems, which thankfully isn’t an issue here, but each requires a somewhat different approach. Read more →


Dear LD: You sound like a devoted daughter and caregiver, so your concern is natural. With the current focus on testing, I’d probably be wondering the same thing if I were in your place. However, as you seem to understand, there are a number of things to consider... Read more →


Sometimes inhibitions and filters that previously held people back diminish with the disease. Read more →


Well-meaning people often don’t know what to offer, so they say and do nothing. Instead, simply ask your friend if she’d like company. If she wants you to drop by, ask her whether she’d... Read more →


Even if there is no background of infections, a person who is showing cognitive decline needs a thorough physical. This physical should include checking for any level of infection. Read more →


You as an adult child may want safety to come first. However, if your parents’ independence is completely stripped away, they may simply give up. Know your parents and then try to help them find a balance. Read more →