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Grief Over a Death Can Suddenly Become Acute Years Later

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Dear Carol: Both of my parents died in late 2019. My dad had a stroke that completely overwhelmed his body, so he died quickly. Everyone in the family knew that if he’d had a choice between death and being left paralyzed, he’d have chosen to die the way he did. We grieved deeply but remembering this helped most of us cope. Mom, though, was devastated. I know that it's different when people lose a spouse, but she just couldn’t get a grip. Her health had been pretty decent, but two months after Dad died, her heart gave out. We think she just gave up because she wanted to be with Dad. Again, my siblings and I moved forward with life, knowing that our parents were together now. The reason I’m writing nearly two years later is that I’ve suddenly been hit with enormous waves of grief over losing them both. What’s up with this? – SN

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