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Dear Carol: My parents are in their 70s and healthy. I love them, but I’m worried because they take for granted that when the inevitable health problems begin to happen, I will be their caregiver. This even includes moving in with them. I’m single and renting, but I’m 41 and want to buy a home, have a social life, and date. My work is demanding but enjoyable, and I need the income. I think they have this attitude because my grandparents lived with us, but Mom didn't have an outside job. I will do what I can to help them, but they can’t depend on me to give up my life. I want them to understand, but how do I do that? - JY

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