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Dear Carol: After being rushed to the emergency room, my 87-year-old mother was diagnosed with a major disease. She was stabilized and sent home with the information that without risky surgery her life is limited. They were frank enough to say that while Mom would probably make it through the surgery, she won’t regain her present quality of life, so they aren’t advising it. Mom’s doctor agrees so she has declined the surgery and is home with hospice care, which is in keeping with her long-term thinking. Though mourning her impending death, the family is at peace with her decision. What has me unsettled is the comments from people who feel that we should “make” her do everything possible to stay alive. One woman told me that Mom’s basically committing suicide. You’ve addressed this before but please say it again. People’s end-of-life wishes should be honored, right? – LW
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