Health Care Decisions: Will Your Wishes Be Known During End-of-Life Care?
Should Your Elderly Loved One Move in With You?

Look at Competency Rather Than Age When Wondering How Much Help Older Adults Need

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Dear Carol: I’m a new reader so maybe you’ve written about this topic, but I’ll ask anyway. My mom’s 78 and my dad’s 82. They seem to be doing great. For example, they recently updated their legal documents, and they’re open with me about their end-of-life wishes. They tell me that if one of them dies, I should help the survivor manage their finances. This is all good and I’m grateful, but I read so many articles about adult children missing red flags about parental health that I constantly wonder if I should already be doing more. How do I know? - DL

Continue reading on Inforum for more insight into how well-meaning adult children can determine when/if their older parents need help:

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