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Husband With Mixed Dementia Thinks Wife Is an Impostor

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Dear Carol: My sister’s husband has mixed dementia including Lewy body and Alzheimer’s. He’s been telling my sister that she’s not really his wife, but an “impostor.” He sometimes shouts at her to get away from him and has even tried to hit her. They had a great marriage for 48 years before his dementia and she’s been doing everything she can to learn how to help him. We both know that this aggressive behavior is due to the disease but no matter the cause, she’s afraid of him. ​What's maybe even more upsetting is that she's the only one who triggers his anger. He's okay with other people. ​He has an appointment with his neurologist in a few weeks. but meanwhile, how does she cope? - WL

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