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Dear Carol: My marriage has always been rocky to the point of near separation but so far, we’ve always patched things up. Our parents are in their late 70s and our current friction happens when I help either of the elder couples even in a small way. My husband gets angry with me and says they should “figure it out on their own.” I’m close to my parents but he’s never been close to his and doesn’t want to get closer. I feel we should help because of their ages but I can already see that doing this will threaten my marriage. Am I being a “patsy” as my husband says or is he being cold and unreasonable?  I’m just trying to be a decent person. – MJ

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