Helping Older Adults Who Won’t Accept In-Home Caregivers
Discussing End-of-Life Issues with Parents and How to Go About It

Time-Consuming Administrative Work Is an Essential Part of Caregiving


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Dear Carol: I visit my dad in assisted living and my mom in memory care several times a week. They're reasonably happy given their health challenges and are active and well cared for. I manage their health care including their prescriptions and I accompany them to their medical appointments. Additionally, I take care of their finances including insurance and taxes. Yet when Mom asks why I don’t stay with her longer when I visit, or my brother wonders why I don’t spend hours every day with each of our parents, I feel guilty. It’s hard to explain to others how time-consuming and emotionally wearing the combination of visits and the administrative aspects of caregiving can be. I have a marriage, children, and a job all needing my time. I just don’t feel like I can do more, but I can’t shake the guilt. – TL

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