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Coping with the Guilt of Placing a Loved One in a Home

FatherDaughterWoman-and-senior-parent-iStock-679543408If we could control events, most of us would never want our elders to be so sick that they need the care of a nursing home, especially homes that are still operating in the dark ages, as some of them still are. Many homes have now moved forward into person-centered care, and reluctant caregivers often find their elders thrive, once they have adjusted. Still, it's hard. For many caregivers, placing an elder in a home spells failure on the part of the caregiver. Even when carers know they've done all they can, a subconscious nagging voice often tells them they are giving up on their parents or spouse. I'm here to tell you that you are not giving up. You are just getting help. Often There Is No Real Choice. I cared for multiple elders, juggling their needs...

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Good point. Thank you, Koorosh. Both sight and hearing need attention when it comes to dementia.

Hi, I am an audiologist running a domiciliary hearing care covering hearing tests and hearing aids for the elderly and seniors in South London UK. I often come across a couple of patients with dementia every month or so when I visit them for ear wax removal or hearing test or adjusting their hearing aids. Just wanted to remind everyone in the elderly care services that there is a bold line between hearing loss and dementia. Please make sure that you encourage your elderly parents or relatives to take a hearing test. Thanks

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