Talking to Your Parents About Their Last Years
When an Older Adult Refuses to Bathe and Change Their Clothes

A Combination of Situational and Anticipatory Grief Understandable Caregiver Emotions

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Dear Carol: While my dad has suffered due to a stroke and subsequent vascular dementia, it’s cancer that’s killing him. Hospice care has been a blessing, but watching this once large, hearty man waste away is devasting. Even though Dad mostly sleeps, I can see the emotional suffering in his face during the brief times he does wake. I long for this to end yet I’m desperate not to lose him. I ask myself what purpose is served with so much suffering and it strains my faith. How do people cope with these complicated feelings? – HD

Continue reading in Inforum about these different types and how we can feel them simultaneously.

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