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Dear Carol: Last week marked the anniversary of the day that my husband and I married. Not only didn’t he remember our anniversary, but he doesn’t always understand that I’m his wife. It’s not his fault, of course, it’s his dementia, but that day nearly undid me. I tried to celebrate for the two of us by making a nice dinner, but he has no interest in food now. I even sent us flowers and bought two cards, one for him and one from him, but after I got him to bed, I sat up crying. Although friends tried to help, this can’t be fixed. I’m recovering, of course, that’s what caregivers do, yet a piece of me died that day. Obviously, you can’t fix my pain and I’m not asking you to. I think I’m just writing to make people aware that this is one more painful step in the dementia journey. – PQ
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