Tips for Balancing Caregiving Relationships between Generations
Mother's Day: Did Your Mother Really Know Best?

Caregivers Can Celebrate Mother's Day With Forgiveness

MothersDay_pexels-secret-garden-931177Photo credit Pexels Secret Garden

Nearly any of us who are mothers have wanted to be a perfect example of motherhood. Yet, the reality is, since we are human, most of us perceive some failures in our own mothering. We do the best that we can and often overcome tough issues of our own. Yet we are rarely saints who are often portrayed in literature and advertisements, especially during this special time when we celebrate mothers. We need to understand, love, and forgive ourselves for our perceived imperfections as mothers. And yes, we need to try to understand, love, and forgive our mothers for what may have been less than perfect mothering practices. Perfection is hard to define and resides in the eye of the beholder, so it's a subjective idea, anyway. Most readers will feel that their mothers have or had some flaws but did a pretty good job. Some readers, unfortunately, were raised by abusive mothers – often women who were themselves abused and were too emotionally damaged to break the cycle. 

Most of our mothers did their best: I'd like to pay tribute to my own mother. She was a wonderful, loving person. Was she perfect? No. She was human, so she had her faults. But I look back on our relationship with love, appreciation, and compassion. I do know that I was fortunate to have her as my mother. How about your mother? Can you look back on your childhood and say "she did her best?" For readers who suffered emotional and/or physical abuse from mothers with compromised minds, hearts, and spirits, that takes ...

Continue reading on Agingcare for more discussion about the sometimes-difficult task of celebrating Mother's Day:

Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories.“I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig William Dayton, Film Composer

Discover the Difference. EGOSAN - the Top-Rated incontinence brand from Italy. Now Available on Amazon.

***Egosan is PEFC certified. This certification guarantees that their products are from sustainably managed forests and recycled controlled sources


Feed You can follow this conversation by subscribing to the comment feed for this post.

Verify your Comment

Previewing your Comment

This is only a preview. Your comment has not yet been posted.

Your comment could not be posted. Error type:
Your comment has been saved. Comments are moderated and will not appear until approved by the author. Post another comment

The letters and numbers you entered did not match the image. Please try again.

As a final step before posting your comment, enter the letters and numbers you see in the image below. This prevents automated programs from posting comments.

Having trouble reading this image? View an alternate.


Post a comment

Comments are moderated, and will not appear until the author has approved them.

Your Information

(Name and email address are required. Email address will not be displayed with the comment.)