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How do we beat this feeling of holiday blues so that we can get through the next few weeks? We accept our attitude as valid. We may wish circumstances were different than they are, but if our reality is that we feel blue or even depressed rather than cheerful, well that is how we feel. No need for guilt or explanations... Read more →


...Other common types of incontinence among adults include urge incontinence when you have a strong impulse to use the toilet but cannot get there in time; overflow incontinence, which involves urine leakage resulting from weak bladder muscle Read more →


t’s like this. I understand that my siblings would have to travel to help Mom and Dad so being here every day isn’t feasible, but couldn’t they change off for a monthly visit? If they can’t even do that, could they at least not second-guess me or criticize my decisions? Read more →


Within those conversations, you’ll likely see opportunities to discuss their ideal wishes. Even if they are already at a stage where they probably should make adjustments in how they are living, approach it by asking how they see their future. Read more →


Sometimes inhibitions and filters that previously held people back diminish with the disease. Read more →


You as an adult child may want safety to come first. However, if your parents’ independence is completely stripped away, they may simply give up. Know your parents and then try to help them find a balance. Read more →


Prior to an aging parent’s health issues, the busy season described above would be a “normal” Christmas for you and your family. Things would be rushed but still mostly pleasant. Not now. The house sits undecorated, your favorite cookie recipes have been... Read more →


...You are told what you can and cannot watch on TV. This is life from your loved one’s point of view. Yes, you as a caregiver must control these issues and more. However, thinking about how you would feel if the situation were reversed can make you a better caregiver. Read more →


While MIA siblings are the overwhelming norm, some families have very different experiences. This article offers a glimpse into another perspective on caregiving: that oft maligned long-distance siblings may actually be excluded by primary caregivers. Read more →


But did someone actually steal Victoria's sweater, or is dementia stealing her mind? Victoria, the lady ranting about her sweater, was sitting in her wheelchair. I had offered to take her down to the nursing home's main dining room on my way to sit with my mother-in-law. I was familiar with Victoria, a resident at my mother-in-law's facility. Read more →