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For traveling, we’d remind you to stock up on supplies heavily beforehand. She may want to limit her beverages while you’re on the road to some degree but not so much that dehydration would be an issue. With the current heat, everyone needs to be more careful. If she has any trigger foods that she’s aware of she could try to avoid those. Read more →


Dear WJ: You’re a dedicated caregiver who speaks for many. I believe that you and other caregivers understand that casual friends do mean well, but this is one of many situations in life where good intentions can backfire. A related situation is comforting people who grieve. Some people want company while others... Read more →


Incontinence accidents can happen for anyone with this health challenge, but when a person lives with dementia, preventing them is going to be a bigger problem, as you’re experiencing. Since I hear from a lot of caregivers... Read more →


If you have a parent or other older adult in your family and you feel that poor hygiene is a realistic issue, the first thing you should do is try to determine why the person isn't keeping up with self-care... Read more →


Deep issues remained between Nancy and her mother, however. Most notably, her mom would not admit to having been abusive. Nancy was willing to work toward healing together in family counseling, but her mother vehemently denied... Read more →


Although it comes from external sources, this is still a type of undeserved guilt that must be overcome. It, too, can run family caregivers down, contributing to feelings of anxiety, depression, and burnout. In these cases, setting boundaries is crucial... Read more →


The main steps for preparation include folding them sideways (Egosan has a blue line that shows you) to help make the “bowl” shape and gently twisting... Read more →


This wall was cluttered with both real and fake accomplishments, but I knew I would need to find room for more. Dad's broken brain would tell him he had earned something else and eventually I would need to produce it... Read more →


My incontinence is functional due to severe abuse when I was in care. The nerves and muscles that control my bladder and bowels are damaged beyond repair. I struggled with stigma with my incontinence... ... Read more →


...“I know,” she’d answer solemnly. “He is in pain. We know him and can see it, but the doctor looks at his chart and says he sleeps so much that he can’t possibly be in pain. Read more →