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Dear PS: Over time, most older adults will experience life changes that can eat away at their sense of autonomy. For that reason, I remind caregivers that they can’t “fix” aging. Sometimes the best thing they can do is Read more →


...Instead, their fatigue stems from the fact that they are incredibly bored. With no schedule to keep and not much to look forward to in their lives, they slide into the habit of napping throughout most of the day. Read more →


...Similarly, your aging parents are at a vulnerable point in their lives where they rely on you for a great deal. They could easily jump to the conclusion that you will not have time for them if you begin focusing on your love life. Therefore, I’d advise caregivers to refrain Read more →


...My uncle particularly enjoyed the spring crab apple blossoms that reminded him of the two decades he and my aunt had spent living out east. Later in the year, we’d drive around local colleges Read more →


We Laugh so We Don’t Cry: Caregivers must handle difficult care decisions and an inordinate amount of stress every day. We’re constantly trying to cope with the knowledge that our loved ones are losing their independence, getting older and often living with serious medical conditions. Although we... Read more →


Dear LC: There is nothing straightforward about dementia caregiving, so I congratulate you for acknowledging the complications and seeking support. Social media support groups can offer a lifeline to caregivers. That said, remember that personalities, as well as personal experiences Read more →


...When it comes to discussing awkward or emotionally charged topics, it always helps to do some research and preparation beforehand. There are countless Read more →


...For me, family care concerns began with my childless uncle and aunt, who moved to our community. Over time, my uncle had recurrent strokes, and my aunt died of cancer. My dad had surgery and came out of it with overnight dementia. My mom had joint replacements and falls, and eventually, dementia. My father-in-law experienced Read more →


...It is challenging to cope with how age, illness and caregiving alter our relationships, especially those between adult children and their parents. Many refer to it as a role reversal, but this is not a dignified way of framing these changes. So, how do we keep our attitudes Read more →


...Some were chance moments that I could have missed if not for the exquisite timing that life occasionally offers us. Some came less spontaneously. And a few came during otherwise painful moments. Read more →