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Dear VF: I’m sorry about your dad. This is a hard time for both you and your mom. You raise valid concerns about your mom making this decision so soon after losing your dad. Read more →


Dear LR: You sound like a caring daughter who is concerned about all aspects of her mom’s care, which is wonderful. Granted, the quality of her care, in general, is going to be your major concern, but what people call us often mirrors how they treat us. Read more →


Dear TG: I’m so sorry that you’re going through this terrible emotional pain, but you did the right thing. Adults with the capacity to determine how they want to live have the right to do so even if their family disagrees. You were careful to obtain a diagnosis Read more →


Dear Nicole: This is going to be a very hard holiday for your dad no matter what your family decides to do, particularly since your mom’s move to memory care is so recent. I’m glad that you’re approaching this decision together. Read more →


Dear WU: What you’re going through is hard but normal for someone who is used to the role of sole caregiver. Rocky as your relationship with your dad has been, it’s what you’re used to. Read more →


Dear CL: Of course you are burned out. Nearly anyone would be under these circumstances. Looking for a different living arrangement for your mom makes complete sense. Such a change could help you regain a feeling of having some control over your own life, Read more →


As the holiday season ramps up, it’s important to remember that your presence and attention are the most valuable gifts you can give. That, and helping your elders to feel included in whatever ways they can participate. Read more →


Dear GHD: I’m happy to see you and your siblings working together to help your mom during her later years. It’s heartening, as well, that you’ve got the foresight to plan carefully for transitioning her to memory care. Read more →


Dear LH: Your mother is fortunate to have you to watch over her care. Like you, I think that any older adult is likely to feel abandoned if the family moves them to a new living environment and then just leaves without visiting for two weeks. Read more →


Dear LD: I sympathize with you and your brother. My sister, Beth, and I have been through this with several elders so I do understand how emotional this is. Read more →