... In reading “The Only Way Out,” I was especially taken with your advice about saying goodbye to your old life and letting go of what was before you can move on. This is a complicated process, and your book takes this on in depth Read more →

Dear GM: Doctors are trained to cure, which is admirable if a cure is feasible. In many instances, though, giving a patient, particularly an older patient, “more time” at the expense of comfort and family time extends suffering Read more →

While many people can use music as a healing tool or even to help a loved one through the death process, the profession of music thanatology requires a deep understanding of medical issues and music and how both these things affect the mind and body. Read more →

...Some of you will see a phrase here that may help you get through a particularly tough day. Others will not, and that’s okay. You may find another way to remind yourself Read more →

...Some of the cuts you make are obvious. If you’ve been volunteering significant time to a fun project, but it’s not one of your life’s priorities, you may need to take a break. Other relationships aren’t so easily altered, so hurt feelings — and even marriage problems — can arise. First, try to breathe, and next, Read more →

...Often this sudden burst of anger is entirely misdirected. Our spouse, child, friend or care recipient may wind up becoming a target when our hurt really stems from the overwhelming stress of our caregiving situation, how unappreciated we feel and/or how little support we Read more →

Yet, I was still fearful for the first few weeks after the move that Dad would not receive the kind of attention he’d grown accustomed to. I was afraid he would decline further without my one-on-one care. Read more →

As with most types of dementia, family members are the primary caregivers by default, at least at the beginning of the disease. They are usually the people who notice that something is not right with their spouse or parent. Again, like Alzheimer’s... Read more →

These videos are short and to the point so choose the ones you want to watch from these links or go to the Egosancares YouTube channel for direct viewing. Let’s start with how to put them on and take them off: Read more →

Dear HD: I’m so sorry to hear about the tough way your dad’s life is ending. I’ve seen enough long, slow deaths in my own life to recognize your deep and confusing grief which will include a longing for relief for both of you. These feelings are all perfectly natural. Though I’m not a big fan of labels sometimes Read more →