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...For most of us, there are times when we think, "Hmm, Mom was right about that." Other times, we know for certain she was wrong. The same goes for Dad, of course, but we'll focus on Mom in this particular article. Read more →

There was no time to fully contemplate the far-reaching implications of Dad’s abrupt change in health. Hard decisions had to be made and there was so much to be done that we couldn’t have anticipated... Read more →

My next thought was of Mom, in the bed next to Dad’s in the nursing home who simply couldn’t bear to watch. She had been unable to fully participate in Dad’s last hours due to her heavy pain medication, and she needed me with her. A curtain blocked Dad’s body... Read more →

I was aware of Betsy’s background and asked her about how different spousal caregiving is from caring for a parent, and what this means for their future: “What it means to me for Matt to have Alzheimer's and need my care is... Read more →

Celebrating the love that has defined your relationship for years is important. Buying a card, reading the message to your spouse and putting the card in a prominent place in his or her... Read more →

One thing that we caregivers should remember is that Valentine's Day is about love. Yes, it's about romantic love. But love is love. You, who are the foundation of your elders' lives, are showing some of the greatest love Read more →

Most of us have heard of caregiver burnout or are familiar with the trials and tribulations involved with providing care for an aging loved one. While we may be aware of these unique “occupational hazards,” many family caregivers feel that they are powerless to change their situations and therefore turn a blind eye to their emotional, physical and even financial difficulties. However, this denial only provides a cozy little space for burnout to take root and grow. According to the Caregiving in the U.S. 2020 Report published by The National Alliance for Caregiving (NAC) and AARP, 36 percent of family caregivers consider their situation to be highly stressful. Furthermore, nearly half of this high-stress group (49 percent) provides more than 20 hours of care each week. Even if you believe you are on top of your loved one’s needs and your own, it is crucial for you to periodically take an objective look at your circumstances to avoid pushing your limits too far. You may be meeting many of these needs, but are you providing the best possible care? At what costs? “Some people do not realize the extent of their stress and burnout, so they do not realize that they need to take action or look into things that can help them,” explains Barry J. Jacobs, Psy.D., clinical psychologist, family therapist... Read more →

The new year is a perfect time to take inventory of your life and see what improvements you can make. My thought is that we can look at the coming year with fresh eyes, even though that freshness may only last a moment.... Read more →

Changes in caregiving methods are difficult. They generally include additional help in some way, whether paid or offered by family members. If a caregiver is even close to burnout... Read more →

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